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5 Tips to Manage Anxiety

Tips to manage anxiety

Most people have experienced anxiety to some degree, so I bet you have too. Perhaps you’ve experienced heart palpitations as you were preparing to give a presentation or speech. Perhaps you’ve felt that pit in your stomach as you began to think of possible reasons you can’t get in touch with your friend or loved-one. […]

Tips to Build Healthier Relationships for couples from a Couples Therapist

Relationships can be challenging. Relationships can also add to our quality of life and mental health. When we work to make our relationships healthy, we increase the chances that our relationships will add to, not take away from, our life enjoyment and fulfillment. So, how can relationships work for us and not against us? Making […]

My Wife and My Girlfriend Are the Same Person: Nurturing Numerous Partnerships in Your Relationship

Partnerships For marriages or other long-term romantic relationships to thrive, it is important to understand the concept that there are numerous partnerships within the relationship. Even if you don’t use the term “partner” in reference to your long-term romantic relationship, successful relationships require navigating several different partnerships simultaneously. From the perspective of a couples therapist, […]

3 Listening Strategies You’ll Learn in Therapy: Part 3 of 4 – Be Curious

Change your perspective through counseling

Skill #2 – Be Curious: Think of this skill as an effort to literally shift your perspective by asking questions so that you can see the issue from the same perspective as the other person to better understand where they are coming from. Consider these screenshots: If you have the view (i.e., perspective) shown in […]

3 Listening Strategies You’ll Learn in Therapy: Part 4 of 4 – Validate

Skill #3 – Validate: Think of this skill as communicating to the other person that you can imagine how their feelings could result from the situation or that you understand how they are seeing things. Validation is often one of the most misunderstood or difficult skills for people to learn in the context of relationship […]

How Do I Find the Right Therapist for Me?

Finding the right therapist

More importantly, how do you find the right therapist for you? While there are general things for anyone to consider when finding a therapist, such as location, cost, and whether the clinician is licensed or not, there are several factors to consider that might be specific to you. Whether you are searching for individual therapy […]

Learning to “Control” Emotions

How to control emotions

Humans…we’re complex, confusing, and interesting creatures. And one of the most fascinating aspects of the human experience, in my opinion, is emotion. Whether you like having emotions or not is irrelevant. Emotions are a part of being human, and rather than trying to “control” or avoid our emotions, the key is to learn how to […]

5 Ways to Create Closeness in Your Relationship

The benefits of healthy relationships are numerous and well documented. Research has suggested that healthy close relationships act as a buffer to stress, are associated with a longer life, help improve immunity, and can even lower blood pressure. Of course, a keyword here is healthy. People who are in unhealthy, distant, or contentious relationships might […]