Responding effectively to your partner The initial goal of communication in any relationship is to develop understanding. Sometimes our sense of righteousness or desire for
Often times in contemporary society we listen to respond rather than to understand. We listen until we have a rebuttal, or we listen until we
Skill #1 – Reflect: Think of this skill as holding up a verbal mirror to the person to whom you are listening and trying to
Skill #2 – Be Curious: Think of this skill as an effort to literally shift your perspective by asking questions so that you can see
How to validate your partner Skill #3 – Validate Think of the skill of validation as communicating to the other person that you can imagine
